Real Wisdom. Real Community.
For the last three weeks, veteran couples have shared their hearts in the Real Stories, Real Hope Sunday school class. David and I have been married for nearly 9 years, but I feel like a newlywed when I hear wisdom from those who have succeeded in making it 30+ years. There have been too many pieces of wisdom shared for me to adequately explain in a short paragraph. I want to summarize a few highlights that spoke to my heart. Each of these truths came with a story of experience and victory.
- Do not major on the minor conflicts. When you look back, those “major” events are tiny blips on the big picture of your life.
- Do not look for the most expedient solution, but what will be best in the long run.
- Each spouse thinks they have compromised the most, because we are selfish.
- In marriage, you do not give 50% and 50%. You must give 100% and expect nothing in return.
- The seasons of life pass by in a flash. This seemingly endless challenging time will soon be but a short memory in your story.
While each of these on their own could be life changing, I was surprised at what stood out the most. I have sensed a desire for connection between the veteran couples and couples with fewer years under our belt. These “seasoned” couples have boldly sat before us and shared their greatest challenges and triumphs, in the hopes that they can point us towards victory in our marriages. What a beautiful gift! If we cling to their words of wisdom and seek the truths of the Lord alongside them, how much stronger would our own marriages become?
Proverbs 11:14 says,
“Where there is no guidance, a people falls,
but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.”
It’s easy to feel isolated in this time of raising little children or working hard to establish a life. These couples have been there! They have weathered the storm and come out on the other side.
Talk to them. Ask them questions. Listen to their wisdom.
“Listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom in the future.
Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.”
Thank you to those who have shared and been vulnerable. It has been a profound blessing to me.
Written by Lindsey Skones